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I know for creative folks, sometimes our lives can feel a little flat, we have so many great ideas and big dreams, but it can be so difficult to actually make our dreams come true for ourselves.Ā
I donāt think itās supposed to be easy to be creative. I think we are working with a lot of resistance and with this thing called āentropyā in the world - have you heard of that word before? Entropy?
Itās important to understand what Entropy is and how to work with it.
What Is Entropy? Generally, entropy is defined as randomness or disorder of a system. This concept was introduced by a German physicist named Rudolf Clausius back in the year 1850.Ā Ā
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When we engage in creative work, we enter into a different, altered state from life as we know it. For me, I have to go through a little bit of a withdrawal.Ā
Julia Cameron in her book, āThe Artistās Way,ā describes this withdrawal state as a detachment or nonattachment state, which is similar to almost a meditative state or a meditati...
My son has a rare disease called Usher Syndrome - he is gradually going deaf and blind - itās been hard to see his hearing and his eyesight decline in his adolescence, and heās been struggling socially, since friendships with his friends from younger years have shifted as heās entered high school, he doesnāt feel like he can keep up in normal conversations, how fast paced they are, he often has to ask people to repeat themselves.
And Iām giving some context here because heās found online gaming as a fun way to use his headphones and talk and laugh and hear everything people say. Plus heās good at it.
I spend a lot of time actively praying for my children and asking and listening for guidance. Iāve talked about prayer on the podcast before, but with Joseph, I knew I needed to let Joseph keep his love of video games, but guide him, but not be too controlling about it. And it went against everything I had previously thought about video games. I have a lot of negative bias toward them...
Have you ever wondered, when you see another person upset, āwhat the heck do I say right now?ā or āthis is so awkward!ā Do you wonder how to draw a quiet, withdrawn teenager out of their shell and get them to talk to you more, to open up to you if thereās distance in the relationship? Do you wonder āwhy doesn't my child listen to me?ā
When your partner is upset or hurting - and you want to help but youāre so worried about the problem you donāt even know what to say and everything you DO say seems to be the wrong thing?Ā
Or what about when your spouse is having a hard time, say itās a problem at work, and you know the solution, but the more you offer suggestions, the more frustrating the conversation becomes?Ā
The #1 reason even the most āwell-intendedā conversations can fall flat - and it has to do with the role we are taking on in the moment we are witnessing a loved one having a hard time.
We take on one of two roles:Ā Are we being a Fixer or a Trust Builder? Oftentimes,Ā ...
I recently flew out to Boston to be with my daughter for spring break, and we had an amazing time, I took my youngest son with me, and my daughter in college - she showed us all of her favorite little spots with yummy food and book stores and Japanese clothing shops, so fun.Ā
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On the plane ride home, I sat by a gentleman who asked me what I do for a living when I got my laptop out and started writing - I told him Iām a life coach and I help women love being a mom.Ā
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It just popped out of my mouth.Ā
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I donāt think Iāve ever introduced my work like that before.Ā
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And he asked me, I could tell he was going to be a talker, dang it, but he asked me how I did that? And I said - moms come to me for coaching with problems theyāre facing, especially the teens these days, - and I help them solve those problems.Ā
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Ā I told him how I always tie a coaching session into a true principle about human behavior, and I help parents see that itās not personal, when their kids are difficul...
Hello my friends. How are you doing? Are you doing fine? Doinā okay? Iāve noticed we all tend to say those very vague and generic things when we arenāt really doing fine or okay - and I understand why we answer that way - but today, if someone were to ask me how Iām feeling, I would say ābittersweet - oh what a treat.ā and then I would grin and my eyes might get a little watery, they might well up a little bit with tears, or they might not, because I really am swimming in the bittersweet emotion lately.
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We just dropped my son off for his two year mission - heāll be serving in a foreign country if all goes smoothly - and this is kind of a big deal, right?Ā
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Just before we said our final goodbye, he reached down and gave me a huge hug, he gives the best hugs, and heās a full twelve inches taller than I am, with long and strong arms, he said, āI love you mom, you are the best mom, thank you for getting me here and for helping make this happen for me. Iāll miss you so much.āĀ
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