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30 Word-of-the-Year Ideas

FUN RESOURCES FOR YOUR INBOX

Have you ever picked a word for the year? True confession: I'm new to picking a "word of the year" since the last couple of years. And I tend to go back and forth between a few words before finally settling on just the right word. However, I enjoyed my word so much (my word last year was "vibrant") - I decided to offer these definitions from different dictionaries for you to choose from.

I'll be sending these fun resources to my email subscribers during the month of January.

Also - if you like this poem, feel free to download, use, and make it your own. All I ask is that you don't resell it. Thanks! - DMV

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Episode #46 - What to Say, When You Don't Know What to Say

Sometimes we don't know what to say when our loved ones are distressed. Especially if we're struggling with our own feelings of overwhelm and frustration. However, knowing what to say when we don't know what to say IS possible, and I want to teach you the framework I use with my own loved ones so you have more connection and influence in your relationships.

When our loved ones are hurting or distressed, we tend to take on one of two roles: the Fixer or the Trust Builder. Most of us on default go into Fixer mode too soon, before our loved ones are ready. When we do this, we run into problems, such as shutdown, stalemates, not being listened to, and disconnection. 

Instead of not being listened to, I'm showing you how to get super grounded in your energy and know what to say so you can develop trust with your loved ones: they will WANT to listen to you when they have problems that need to be solved. The framework I'm teaching is called Emotion Coaching, developed by Dr.(s) John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute. 

Once you implement Emotion Coaching into your life, you will know how to handle any BIG emotions your loved ones have.

Imagine how powerful that will be in your family legacy! Many of us were never taught this. This episode will change everything in terms of your confidence to handle anything your loved ones are facing that may seem overwhelming. Learn how to be a Trust Builder of goodness for your loved ones so they feel empowered to solve their problems with you as their guide. 

 

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Episode #45 - Goals with Heart

I've noticed for myself, my children, my music students, and my clients, that sometimes we don't have a healthy relationship with goals and intentions. Especially if we're struggling with believing it's okay to have desires, we don't want to go all in with desire if it feels like a never ending cycle of wanting more, or not feeling like we are ever good enough.

"Desire is a teacher: When we immerse ourselves in it without guilt, shame or clinging, it can show us something special about our own minds that allows us to embrace life fully." - Mark Epstein, Open to Desire

This is at the very root of setting goals with heart. Something beautiful happens when you start to examine your desires. You begin to set goals because you know that if you don't, you can inadvertently shut down your potential to grow.

Desire hurts so good. It is an ache that we will never escape from, unless we are shutting it down and numbing our capacity for joy. When we numb out our inner desires and wants, it affects all our senses, as well as our capacity to feel alive.

Goals with heart will give you a straightforward path toward a healthy relationship with goals. Focus on how you want to FEEL to fuel your actions, and who you are becoming along the way. This will give your goals some soul, your goals will have heart. And this is a beautiful thing, friend.

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Episode #44 - Let Your Heart Be Light : caring "too much" about other people's opinions

What does it mean to let your heart be light? Did you know there are ways to not let other people’s opinions weigh you down? I’m not just talking about not caring what other people think, but throughout the festive season, you can decide right now to create a better experience as you navigate all the gatherings with extended family and show up exactly as you want without letting other people’s judgments weigh on you.

Of course, we can’t control anybody else’s opinions of us, but today, I’m going to help you create a vision of real confidence and authenticity, and show you how to resonate in more self-compassion. So, if you’re ready to let your heart be light this holiday season, listen closely.

Tune in this week to discover what it means to be caring, without caring "too much" and fall into the people-pleasing dynamic that leaves you feeling resentful. I’m sharing two simple, practical tips to implement that guarantee you will experience more peace on earth, not only this time of year, but moving forward for years to come.

If you want to gift your loved ones an amazing Christmas gift this year, I’ve got just the thing for you. Grab a three month membership to Dare Greatly that will get activated right after Christmas, along with a notebook and pretty pen to wrap up and a printable gift certificate! Go to daniellevaughncoaching.com for all the details!

What You’ll Learn on this Episode:

  • Why “caring too much” is not a problem, and the REAL definition of what it means to be Confident and caring at the same time.
  • What it means to live your life from Authenticity versus people-pleasing.
  • Two considerations that will help you let your heart be light, versus being weighed down by other people’s criticisms or judgments of you.
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Episode #43 - Three Truths to Escape the Mom Guilt Trap

In a culture where moms place high expectations on themselves (and we do so in order to be the best moms we can be), what many of us lack is the ability to manage the emotion of guilt in a healthy way. When we're thinking it's our fault for a child's poor choices, it's vital to take time to own what is ours as mothers to own, and let go of what is not ours to own, so you can set yourself free from the burden of Mom Guilt.

This episode offers a practical approach for escaping the mom guilt trap so we can experience more peace in our parenting. If you identify as someone who experiences a lot of guilt, and often feel discouraged, frustrated, or hard on yourself for your child's choices, you're in the right place.

Listen in and learn what to do when you are in the thick of experiencing Mom Guilt. Spoiler alert: the solution here isn't to be hard on yourself in order to do better.

Learn powerful mindset shifts for trusting yourself with more confidence in how you parent and teach and connect, no matter your child's age or stage. 

Because yes, parenting is hard! It demands a lot of us. But trusting yourself and the way you showed up as a parent is available to you, mistakes and all. And nothing from your past can keep you from stepping into trusting yourself more in the present, and moving forward in the future as you create a family and a legacy you are proud of, without guilt and without regret. I want this for you!

Mentioned on the show:

 

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Episode #42 - Growth Mindset Momentum: The #1 Question I Get Asked about Raising a Talented Child

Over the course of my music teaching career and through the programs I run in my coaching practice, I've had the privilege of working with very talented kids and very intelligent parents and doing countless work on Growth Mindset myself. Growth Mindset is a lens I help ALL of my clients and music students develop, and I've learned some powerful lessons about how to cultivate it that I want to share with you today.

If you've ever felt worried about how to build your child's self-esteem and help them enjoy their talents, you have to tune in. You might think you are building your child's self-esteem when you tell them how amazing they are, but in truth, I'm showing you why this is not helpful in building motivation for your child to become the best they can be.

Listen in to discover why I believe the way we compliment our child matters; how as parents, we have the power to either help our children have strong internal motivation, or we're actually taking away from their internal drive to do their best, without meaning to. It comes down to knowing how to praise our child in such a way that builds TRUE self-esteem.

What you'll learn on this episode:
  • Why Growth Mindset is so powerful in raising confident kids.
  • The Three powerful lessons I've learned about motivating children to develop their talents and what NOT to do.
  • How to help your child when she is comparing herself to others who are 'more talented.'
  • The best way to praise your child versus telling them, 'you're amazing!' (and why that actually hurts their self-esteem.)
  • The emotions you need to build tolerance in with yourself so you can help your child tolerate their own tricky emotions.
Mentioned on the show:

 

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Episode #41 - More Faith

Sometimes I am asked how to have more faith. And whether you consider yourself as someone with a lot of faith, or you don't affiliate with an organized religion, but you know there's a loving presence that is bigger than you and wants your greatest good, I have a lot to say about faith and I think you'll find some gold nuggets in here that will change the way you think about prayer.

From prayers of fear to prayers of faith, I'm speaking to the difference between the two types of prayers, so lean in and get ready for an intimate peak into how I have found a sure way to access the powers of heaven to trust my parenting journey with more faith.

You'll discover how to take your prayers to a deeper sense of faith and connection. I'm offering advice on what I've learned from spending most of my time in my earlier years praying a prayer of fear, and why I now know those prayers left me feeling more disconnected.

Learning how to pray with more faith has shifted my confidence and connection with God in a profound way, and I'm sharing it all in this episode.

 

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Episode #40 - Lessons from Thirty Years Together

Why is marriage worth the effort? How does a couple work through challenges and keep choosing each other given their differences?

These are relationship questions I work through with my clients, as well as questions I've pondered over the 30 years I've been married to Ethan.

We just celebrated our 30 year wedding anniversary. In today's episode, Ethan and I discuss our challenges we've worked through, how we approach creating 'shared meaning' in our relationship, and based on our experiences and trials, what makes a good marriage.

I know many of you are wondering how Ethan is doing since his stroke, so I'm sharing an update on how we've rebuilt our lives together since that hardship, and how it pertains to how you can work on your marriage relationship when you experience setbacks to how you thought things would go, but life has something different in mind.

Download the song 'Chocolate Kisses'
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Episode #39 - Motivation : It's Not What You Think

Motivation is a skill more than it is a mood, and when you learn to build it as a skill, you will be amazed at what you can achieve.

Listen in today to find out the truth about motivation, all the benefits of overcoming resistance, and how to generate motivation in yourself and your children when doing hard things.

What you will discover:

  • The common myths about motivation and how to work with your resistance.
  • What to do when you feel apathy or dread.
  • How to cultivate motivation in your children to do their best and stick to hard things.
  • Why being hard on yourself (or your children) isn't useful when motivation is low.

Our desires are important. They are the roadmap to follow towards living a fulfilled, full life that has meaning. If your motivation is low or if you have a loved one who is struggling with their motivation, this episode will give you actionable tools to start using today.

 

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Episode #38 - How to Enjoy  Your Body More through the Summer Months

If you could go through the entire summer without worrying about your body image, what would that change for you in terms of enjoying yourself more?

Maybe you’re worried of being in a swimsuit, your legs in shorts, your weight, your lack of a suntan. Does this sound familiar?

If it does, I want to invite you to do something extraordinary with me this summer. Make peace with where your body is, today, and cultivate a little body peace, one step at a time.

I am teaching you how to do this with the things I've learned after working with women clients of all ages. It’s vital we have tools to cultivate our own version of authentic beauty standards and health and nutrition goals.

In this episode, I share what authentic beauty standards are on your own terms, and how you can quiet the loud voices of body shame if that's something that comes up for you during the summer months.

If you have the urge to enjoy a better experience with your body, it’s time to move toward health and wellness goals that are authentic to your unique body. Today, I tell you how to do just that!

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Episode #37 - How to Talk with Kids About World Events

How comfortable are you talking about sad or scary world events?

Maybe you are very open in your family. Maybe you don't know where to start.

But thinking about your children and building their tolerance for the hard things that happen in the world, you'll want to be in tune to your child's readiness.

In this episode, I break down why showing your children how to find answers is the ultimate key to helping your kids feel safe in the world.

I want you to feel so grounded talking about it and to start building your child's distress tolerance so they don't feel alone in the hard things.

Grab your copy of my new PDF download, Conversation Starters: How to Talk with Your Kids About Scary Things (available for email subscribers). It gives you question prompts and small scripts to facilitate connecting conversations. It's the truest shortcut to being able to talk about hard things!

In this episode you will discover:

  • How to start the conversation, the soft "lead ins".
  • How to take your child's emotional or sensitivity temperature.
  • Why you need to be the first one in on these conversations.
  • Why talking about it is so important.
  • How to know if your child feels safe, moving forward.

My goal is to give you some strategies, even some question prompts and scripts to work through with your kids to help them build some resilience skills and distress tolerance, and some connection with you when they are faced with world events that are sad.

I'm passionate about helping prepare children to be emotionally resilient, especially during hard times.

And I love helping you show up in your parenting and giving you practical solutions so can start meaningful conversations that build closeness and some resiliency.

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Episode #36 - Ten Things Happy Moms Know

If you could clarify your parenting values in ten principles, what would they be?

Maybe you know exactly what your values are, the things that are important to you in parenting, your truths you want to pass on to your kids, your 'no matter whats'. Maybe you have no idea?

If you aren't sure, I want to invite you to do some digging with me.

I am sharing my parenting principles and teaching you how to do the same in an upcoming course. It’s in this program that you will truly parent with so much confidence, and reinvent your parenting strategy from the ground up.

This is not about being hard on yourself as a mom, or thinking you are doing it wrong. It’s bigger than that.

In this episode, I share what parenting principles guide my connection with my kids, why it's important to know yours, and how to become more grounded when you interact with your children so you can look back and truly love the way you showed up as a mom.

It doesn't matter how old or young your children are, this episode applies. If you have the urge to enjoy this thing called parenting more, it’s time to clarify what's important to you, and why. Today, I tell you how I do that so that you can too.

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Episode #35 - Men and Anger

This episode addresses an issue that many women deal with in their marriages and I want to give you some insight and strategies on what to do with issues relating to men and anger.

One thing to keep in mind: this isn’t in the context of abuse, men and anger and abuse or domestic violence. That’s a different topic and discussion. I’m speaking to the couple who is in a healthy relationship, but experiences some tension around the emotion of anger, and who is wondering what to do with that tension. 

My main questions in addressing this topic are:

  • 1. What is healthy anger, and what constitutes anger issues?
  • 2. Is it okay for men to be angry? And if so, what does that look like? 
  • 3. How can we reframe anger as a valid human emotion versus a character flaw?
  • 4. When is Anger useful? And when is it not useful?
  • 5. How can I deal with an angry husband? What strategies will help me when I’m uncomfortable with my husband’s anger?

Anger has such a negative reputation compared to other emotions. Perhaps the lack of respect for it as a valid human emotion comes from some cultural or religious reasons, and of course how it can devolve into violence.

But more and more, psychologists are giving anger its due respect as a valid emotion to pay attention to, since its valuable qualities include pointing out when we are out of alignment with our values, and how it motivates and energizes us to solve problems. 

Anger holds important information about how to love each other better. 

This is about learning how to problem solve together if you are uncomfortable with the emotion of anger and how your husband expresses it.

Being upset is part of the human experience. Now what?

Listen in this week to learn how to set boundaries and process anger, and show up in an intentional way. I share why people-pleasing and walking on eggshells isn't the answer.

Men experience anger differently than women, in general. It's true. But we don't have to fix men and anger. Instead, we get to decide how we want to show up.

Referenced in the podcast:

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Episode #34 - Bittersweet

How intensely do you feel the emotion 'Bittersweet'?

Maybe you aren't sure if it's something else, like Grief, or Nostalgia. Maybe you know it for exactly what it is.

But navigating this emotion can ask a lot of us, it can require us to draw on our best tools in order to avoid some of the pitfalls that this emotion can create for us; especially if we've experienced heartbreak or loss in the past.

Knowing the difference between the nuances of the Bittersweet emotion, versus Grief for instance, is everything. Because it can either leave you empowered to fight for a beautiful future, or leave you feeling super sad.

In this episode, I break down why allowing the Bittersweet emotion in a healthy way is the key to resetting a beautiful relationship moving forward. Learn how to handle the tension inside of your headspace and your heartspace and practice your skills of emotional resilience.

I want you to embrace the Bittersweet emotion with a whole heart. And I want you to know you CAN handle it.

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Episode #33 - The Power of Emotional Intelligence

 

The power of Emotional Intelligence is the most important skill we can acquire. Those who have it do better in their careers, their friendships, marriages, parenting, and so on. Emotional Intelligence is a higher predictor of success than academic intelligence. But I don’t think we believe this - especially if we have adopted the notion that expressing emotions is weak.

There are four skills that are vital components to work on acquiring. They are:

  • Self-Awareness
  • Self-Management
  • Social Awareness
  • Relationship Management

In this episode, I’m offering to you that your most important work should be assessing which skill is difficult for you, and then building on that skill with intention.

Tune in this week to discover the true power of emotional intelligence in your life. I’m sharing where I see the most common pitfalls with emotional intelligence, and how to up-level your skills, and perhaps most important of all, why it matters.

References:

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves; Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett; Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown

  

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Episode #32 - How to Fall in Love with your Goals

 

Did you know it's possible to fall in love with your goals?

In this episode, you'll learn how to shift any negativity you might have with the whole goal rah rah conversation from the past that may not have left you feeling very good about yourself.

We’ve all been there, made goals, then lost steam, and just kind of moved on - learning the lesson that goal setting might not be our thing. I want the opposite for you. I want to help you fall in love with your belief and  your capability to do what you set your mind to.

Before you make any New Year's resolutions or write down your goals, I've given you three questions to ask yourself to help you get really clear on WHY the goal matters to you. If your reason is fear based, your experience going after the goal will look completely different than if your reason is fueled by a different emotion than fear.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • how to approach goals from a place of self-respect versus fear.
  • why discipline only takes us so far and what to use instead.
  • how to generate motivation that is sustaining and gathers with momentum as time goes on.
  • three important questions to ask yourself before making any goal.
  • how to really make yourself proud.

If goals have left you skeptical in the past, then this episode is for you.

Not only will you learn how to build trust with yourself, you will feel grounded in your ability to accomplish your dreams. As you answer the three questions I’ve given you today with honesty and kindness towards yourself, you will fall in love with your new goal setting strategy.

Let’s create our best year yet.

Mentioned on  the show:

Ceri Payne - Business Coach for moms with ADHD.

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Episode #31 - Money Beliefs

I find that most of us have a complex relationship with money and how managing it was modeled for us growing up. This episode mainly focuses on money confidence and beliefs that help and beliefs that harm. 

So in order to do that, we start with the Scarcity / Abundance framework. 

What I’ve noticed is that most of us are a little worn out about the Abundance discussion. We see a movement to pair down, to simplify, a movement toward minimalism versus materialism, and I think that is a beautiful thing.

But at the same time, we’re still talking about, especially in the self-help world, we’re told if only we have an Abundance Mindset, we will succeed and enjoy the finer things in life. I’m good with all of that, but where it gets tricky is when it crosses over into a desire-driven mental exercise that can quickly turn into exhaustion for all the wanting.

Do you know what I’m talking about?

Have you experienced this?

We break it all down in today's episode about Money Beliefs. Listen in and learn the top emotions that will serve you the most in regards to money and confidence.

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Episode #30 - Strong Like Sarah; Conversations with my Friends series - Amy Frei, Sarah's mom

 

In this episode, Danielle is joined by Amy Frei, mother of Sarah Frei of Strong Like Sarah, (who has captured the hearts of Instagram.) Listen in to learn how their family has dealt with the difficult circumstance of Sarah being hit by a drunk driver and her road to recovery after the accident.

Chronicling the events that have occurred a little over a year ago, Amy shares insights into Sarah's resilience, the remarkable attitude she has adopted, and the way she thinks as Sarah builds a new life for herself.

You'll learn more about how Sarah caught the attention of Nashville country singer and superstar, Russell Dickerson and received a standing ovation at the Country Music Awards, the prayers that have been answered as part of Sarah's healing journey, how the Frei family supports Sarah's independence in college, and the role of forgiveness in Sarah's ability to move forward. 

Perhaps most amazing of all, Amy helps us believe in miracles. You're sure to fall in love with this beautiful family. Enjoy!

Links for this episode:

Thank you in advance for your generosity. 🤟🏼

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Episode #29  When Things Change and you Don't Want Them to

We talk alot on this podcast about thinking in ways that serve you. But we haven't discussed how to apply it when you're facing a big change that you don't want to face.

Dealing with change can feel so difficult to grapple with. It can make you want to avoid the change and maybe even resist it in unhealthy ways.

But you don't have to avoid or resist change.

If you can identify the stages I lay out today, you can go through change with more grace and elevate your ability to trust yourself with anything life throws your way.

In this episode, I give you four tips to follow in order to allow for going through change with more grace. I teach you how to fight for your future, and not get stuck in 'the good ole days' mentality. The four tips will show you how to be gentle with yourself through change, even when you don't love what life is asking of you.

You've got this. You can handle this.

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Episode #28  We All Mess Up our Children: A Message of Hope - Attachment Theory Insights Every Parent Needs to Know

Trust issues show up for many of us. Attachment Theory may explain why.

Based on our childhoods, how we were nurtured, and based on our temperaments, we developed what I call trust templates, which is just in simple terms, your default programming with your ability to trust. Sometimes, our trust templates need some attention and updating. 

Attachment Theory can help you see through a more clear lens the areas where to work on building trust. It’s a skill that can be developed.

In today's episode, you'll learn:

  • the definition of the different Attachment Styles.
  • the history of where Attachment Theory came into being in the psychology world, why it’s still such a valid theory. (You’ll want to see if you can identify your own Attachment Style as you listen.)
  • how your Attachment Style lays a foundation for your assumptions about relationships as an adult and how it affects your ability to trust.
  • some tips on how you can more gracefully heal and up-level your own attachment style in your present relationships.
  • and answer the burning question everyone has after learning about Attachment Styles, (I’m sure you’ll have this question in your mind too,) which is, can your Attachment Style change over time? Is it too late?

When you learn how to trust, you get to experience more fulfilling relationships that are deeply satisfying. And I want that for all of you.

Download your Attachment Style Quiz here

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Episode #27  Kindred Spirits: How to be an Amazing Friend

We have many expectations when it comes to our friendships.

We believe that kindred spirits friendships should be easy. They must believe the same way we do, never have disagreements, and always be fun. And if our friends let us down, believe new things, or move away, we distance ourselves.

Does that sound familiar?

The expectations we put on our friendships are difficult to live up to. It is always our job to go first, to love, and to not try to change the other person.

On this episode of The Dare Greatly Podcast, I share 7 tips on how you can be an amazing friend and find your kindred spirits. These tips will not only make your friendship more fulfilling but also make you feel like you have the most amazing friends ever.

Click “play” below to check it out.

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Episode #26  Afghanistan

I see a need to address what to do when you are feeling helpless and how to handle the passion and the caring and the concern you carry in your heart when it seems the world is burning.

I'm sharing with you some ideas of what empowered people think. You’ve probably heard about what people who are empowered do, to make the world better, but today I’m sharing with you the way they think.

For those of us who are interested in improving ourselves and the world, as we’re trying to manage our heads and our hearts – I want to offer to you that you are a leader – do you think of yourself that way? You are - if you’ve chosen to be intentional with how you want to use your precious life energy, toward making the world a better place. Today's episode will give you insights, examples and ideas of how to move forward when it seems the world is burning.

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Episode #25 How to Foster a Sense of Belonging among Women Friendships; conversation with my friends series: interview with Lisa Nelson.

A topic on my mind and heart right now, I’m coming off of a lot of summer camps and experiences rubbing shoulders with amazing young women.  

Do you know, that you all are raising some amazing girls out there?

I really love this age group, the young women in their teenage and young adult years.

I’m always impressed with their intelligence these days, they are smart! and also how hard they work, the things they navigate in today’s world that I didn’t necessarily have to face. . .

Today’s episode is about considering how to model to the younger generation, how to help the young women in your life cultivate a sense of belonging with each other; being willing to embrace the friendships in your life from a place of curiosity and non-judgement.

This age group can set up a tone or a them for the rest of women’s lives, with their ability to enjoy each other.

I’ve noticed a theme with my clients with needing to heal resentments from the past with friendships gone awry, and I’m always so proud of women who put forth the effort to have the hard conversations, clean up the hurt feelings, and who conclude that friendships with other women are worth all of it.

This can be a tender area for a lot of us. I’ve found that there are some old wounds from friendships gone south that can hurt for years, and we tend to carry those experiences into adulthood.

But today’s conversation will help you consider how we CAN heal old wounds, we can shift this dynamic, and move forward, if that is something that is calling to you.

Join me in the conversation, I asked my friend, Lisa Nelson, to share her insights with how she thinks about women friendships and how her approach is not only possible, it's the best way.

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Episode #24 Parenting with Purpose

Can you love your children WHEN they're being difficult?⁠ When they're in the thick of MAKING YOUR LIFE difficult?⁠

This is a question I keep coming back to often.⁠ And I want to always be curious about it. . .⁠

It's one I've grappled with throughout my parenting journey. ⁠And I know lots of other mamas do, too.⁠

We're diving into it in this episode, and I'll tell you why I think it's not only possible, it's THE BEST WAY.⁠

Listen in and learn how to shift your head and heart space from what I call 'Victim Mom Energy' to more empowered emotions, such as: curiosity, compassion, grounded, and trusting, and why it's vital you operate from these emotions instead.

 

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Episode #23 Life Lessons from Cruella and the Power of Stories

 

I see so many of us with limiting beliefs around how we tell our own story, which wouldn’t be a problem if these beliefs weren’t directly affecting our sense of self. These limiting beliefs hold us back from creating the best version of ourselves, and I’m showing you how to start thinking differently about the meaning of stories, the role of anger and revenge, and the option of developing more loving-kindness.

If you have thoughts about Disney's new movie, Cruella, or that anger and outrage is easier, you might be missing huge opportunities to add more goodness to the world. And you are missing out on why loving-kindness is worth it in the end, nobody wins. It’s all about thinking about how you tell your story in a way that gets you the results you really want, which is to FEEL better.

Tune in this week as I break down the limiting beliefs I see with the role of anger and outrage when we've been wronged, if revenge is ever justified, how to cultivate more loving-kindness for fuel versus anger, and so much more.⁠

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Episode #22 Everything You Need to Manage Anxiety Like a Warrior - Part II

 

I recently did a five-day workshop called Master Anxiety Like a Warrior, and since this was so transformative for so many people in how they were thinking about their anxiety, I wanted to share it with all of you here on the podcast.

This episode is all about how to face worst case scenarios, which is the third step of how to manage anxiety, and lastly, to give your anxiety some grace.

There’s a lot of mind spinning and confusion that we create around having to deal with anxiety. I’m simplifying this process in a way that will inspire you to take action and start turning the anxiety habit around.

Join me today to uncover how you can manage anxiety in a purposeful way and avoid making the same mistakes I used to make when anxious. Learning how to do this is going to be such a revelation for how to enjoy being you, and you’re going to create the energy that gets you the life you want!

Download your Manage Anxiety Framework PDF by clicking here.

 

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Episode #21 Everything You Need to Manage Anxiety Like a Warrior - Part I

 

If you’re going through your days experiencing a lot of anxiety, why do you think that is? Do you know what to do with it? And if you do, what kind of support are you building to help you manage it like a warrior?

This week, I’m diving into my four step framework for managing anxiety. It’s a daunting emotion, especially if you've developed the habit of anxiety as your main tool for problem-solving, but anxiety doesn't have to run the show. What I’m hoping to provide is some motivation for you to take charge and turn the anxiety habit around.

Tune in for part one where I'm teaching my four simple steps to managing anxiety like a warrior! If you’re ready to start living your life from a place trust in yourself, and experience a more grounded energy to fuel your dreams, this show has everything you need to get started.

 

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Episode #20 Honor Your Creativity: A Conversation with Maui Spirit Painter

As part of the 'Conversations with my Friends' series, I interviewed Jonny Tanner, the Maui Spirit Painter who creates his livelihood as an artist by creating what he calls 'spirit paintings.' So FUN!

Our conversation uncovers insights on:

  • how to balance a creative and a business mindset
  • finding the best mentors for career advice as an artist
  • incorporating a spiritual element into your art
  • honoring your gifts and talents without apology

and so much more. Join us in the conversation and be inspired by this artist's work and personal journey as he discovered his unique path to higher creativity that has also created a sustainable business to support his family.

- Find Jonny spirit.painter on Instagram

- Spirit Painter website: book a session

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Episode #19 Connection on Purpose and How to Meet Your Needs

This episode, we’re talking about connection on purpose – the way you cultivate the kind of connection with other people that is deeply satisfying and takes full ownership of meeting your own needs. This isn’t about cultivating an “I don’t need other people to fulfill me,” kind of attitude, but rather the opposite, what you can do to minimize feelings of loneliness, and maximize feelings of connection with others in your life.

  • I’ll teach you a powerful two-step process that is one of THE MOST powerful tools to move you from feeling lonely and disconnected to feeling empowered and fulfilled in your relationships.
  • You'll learn about the brain's need for oxytocin, the 'trust' hormone, and how to create more of it for a happy brain.
  • Discover how to help your teens and young adults create better connection in their friendships, versus false connection that social media mimics.

Join me to learn more about how to create more connection on purpose and minimize loneliness in your life.

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Episode #18 Perfectionist Assumptions, Illusions, and Someday Thinking

Do you enjoy the pursuit of self-improvement, goals, and personal growth? Or do you have a negative relationship with yourself in those pursuits? If so, you might be engaging in perfectionist assumptions, illusions, and someday thinking.

It's time to operate from the emotions of 'satisfaction' and 'fulfilled' as you engage in the pursuit of personal growth and achieving your best - not because you have to prove anything to yourself or anyone else - but simply because it FEELS good to grow.

You can dream big, or not. You can play it safe, or go all in. But do it from energy and emotions that serve you, versus the 'hustle' energy that shuts us down and burns us out.

Listen in and learn how to like yourself better, enjoy being yourself more, and drop the thinking that says you'll approve of yourself someday 'when'. . . 

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Episode #17 Give Yourself Permission

 

Women have been taught that telling ourselves NO is what motivates change. I've got some THOUGHTS about that.⁠ Telling ourselves NO sends the message other people's opinions matter more than our own.⁠ It tells us we are not our own authority.⁠ And that doesn’t motivate nurturing behaviors.⁠

So let’s swap telling yourself NO for giving yourself permission!⁠
⁠Ideas for how to give yourself permission?

I have six areas I focus on in the podcast: Give yourself permission to

  • give yourself a compliment and celebrate small wins:
  • tell the whole truth and stop people-pleasing
  • respect and (gasp) even enjoy your body as it is - and stop always thinking about losing weight all the time.
  • be your own authority in regards to realistic beauty standards
  • want and desire more for your life.

Join me and learn how to stop saying NO to yourself, and why this matters for your overall well-being.

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Episode #16 Clean Pain & Dirty Pain

 

If there was one concept I wish I would have known about when I was younger, it would be this one: the difference between clean pain and dirty pain. Much of the work I do is about helping people feel better.

I know what it’s like to go through life feeling heavy and sucktastic all the time, and wondering why when I’m so blessed, - like I shouldn’t feel this way. I should be so grateful. . . I hear my clients say this a lot too.

When we’re feeling stuck in negative emotion, when we’re spinning in our own pain, it’s because we haven’t had the time, or taken the time, to do the work of cleaning up our pain. Learn how on today's episode.

Clean Pain Booklet: Download Here!

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Episode #15 Conversations  with my Friends: Emily Lee - Surviving Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage

We hold a value system with our marriage partners, and when that value system is betrayed, the disrupt in our marriage can be traumatic.

Betrayal trauma can also involve anything that deals with addiction from a spouse. Join me in my conversation with Emily Lee, fellow Life Coach colleague, as we unpack her experience with betrayal trauma in the context of pornography in her marriage, and how she worked through it.

Work with Emily: email - [email protected]

 

Bonus: You Have Something Special to Offer mini Workbook Download

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Episode #14 You Are Already Worthy

This is one of those topics that is really at the heart of what I wish I could give every single woman within my sphere of influence, I wish I could give them this personal belief, that I could package it up pretty and put a big bow on it and say, here you go! I’m giving you the gift of believing that you are already worthy. Listen in and receive this beautiful gift.

Bonus: You Have Something Special to Offer mini Workbook Download

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Episode #13 - 20 Lessons Learned in 2020

After last year, we are looking forward to 2021 with cautious optimism. We all love a clean slate, a fresh start - and this episode will help you kick off the new year with some light and empowerment versus carrying negativity from the previous year into the new year.

Bonus - 2020 Review mini Workbook - Download and Print

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Episode #12 - Choosing Faith When in Crisis

Do you know how to navigate a crisis? Do you know how to manage fear and doubt during difficult times? It takes a lot of work, a lot of mental redirection to cultivate the useful emotion of Faith versus Fear when navigating a crisis. This week's episode is about developing the skills of mental resilience and emotion regulation when life throws you its inevitable curveballs.

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Episode #11 - Acres of Diamonds

Many of us go through the holiday season feeling a little weary and unsatisfied, wondering if we're doing it wrong. In this episode, I teach you how to cultivate more happiness on purpose, and how to unearth your personal set of unique treasures, your acres of diamonds.

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Episode #10 Hero of her Story - Conversations with my Friends (my daughter Kate)

If you're wondering how to establish an adult relationship with your young adult daughter, in such a way where you can feel more connected and ultimately have the relationship that you want to, this episode is for you. The mother/daughter relationship has so much potential for genuine and sustaining fulfillment, but also for going awry – mainly because mothers and daughters are still working through out-dated ideas. Learn how my daughter and I navigate the next stages of our relationship as she lives on her own across the country.

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Episode #9 Gratitude for my Mentors

 

It is a rewarding pursuit to intentionally seek out people to look up to and be inspired by. Mentors can make all the difference in your ability to achieve growth and experience breakthroughs.

In this episode, discover how I found inspiring mentors in books, from history, and real life examples. It's one thing to talk about hard work, believing in yourself, developing the self-confidence necessary to never take things personally, but it's an entirely different thing to see people living these principles, being an example of what is possible. I hope these examples will give you some direction and Light as you go through this thing called Life.

 

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Episode #8 Anxiety and Politics

The 2020 Presidential Election has been like no other. I'm helping clients through their anxiety this year over politics and how to plan for an uncertain future. In this episode, I speak to some tips and ideas on how to stop living in fear of the future, how to understand the brains normal responses to anxiety and perceived threats, and what to do if you’re feeling anxious about the future.

 

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Episode #7 Intuitive Eating

Do you experience a lot of confusion about what to eat? Has Diet Culture hi-jacked your ability to enjoy food or do you always feel guilty for eating the foods you love? If you are anxious about body image, confused about food and exercise, and wanting to weight balance for life in a sustainable way, then learn about Intuitive Eating. It is a complete game-changer and promises mind/body/food peace.

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Episode #6 Difficult People

What do you do with the difficult people in your life? How do you manage the frustration that comes up when other people are annoying? We dive in deep into the topic of Difficult People on this episode. Listen in and learn how to manage your relationships from a more loving space.

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Episode #5 When You Hit Roadblocks in your Health

Conversations With My Friends Series - Interview with Dr. Allison Brumley, Naturopathic Medicine. Dr. Brumley is a physician trained in functional medicine, and looks at the whole person, treating the underlying cause instead of just managing disease and symptoms.

Aspire Wellness Clinic: How to work with Dr. Brumley (Utah residents)

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Episode #4 Intuition Matters

The opposite of Intuition is telling yourself, "I don't know." Most of us tell ourselves "I don't know," all the time. But what if you did know? What if you could access your Intuition, your inner wisdom in such a way that helped you live more from a place of Knowing Yourself versus spinning in confusion? Listen in and learn more. . .

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Hope During Uncertainty

When you don't know how to feel hopeful during times of uncertainty, it can be hard on your mental health.  ⁠This week's podcast dives deeper into how to cultivate hope during difficult circumstances. ⁠

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Radical Self-Compassion

The word radical has a lot of different meanings and nuances. But in the context of radical self-compassion, I’m relating it to how we think and treat ourselves, and how this can be a foundation for going through life from a place of more serenity versus anxiety.

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Growth Warriors and Breakthroughs

Listen in and learn what a Growth Warrior is, how to move through resistance to growth, and how to believe in your own fundamental goodness.